I was extremely restless and full of undefined emotions… I was walking down the hallway in front of the waiting room. I remembered all the advice given to the mother-to-be, all the fearful smiles of the last weeks of pregnancy and the first groans of the early labor.
The possible risks were giving me stomach aches… Hours were passing slowly and I wanted nothing but that anxiety to end and to know that my beloved one is safe. Suddenly, a thought had crossed my mind: What was I thinking when I wanted a child?! I don’t know about others, but in my case, the feelings of fear… and helplessness… and the need of protection… come back when that small wonder, who has brought so much joy into our lives, turns from angel to terror, making me ask again: Is this how it should be? Why don’t kids come with an user manual? Or… How come I didn’t get a well-behaved child?! I am terrified of what will happen when he grows up.
By the way… has anyone found the user’s manual??? Hi, I’m Dr. Claudio Consuegra, and I too have been through that roller-coaster of emotions when our daughters were born. I can assure you that holding those beautiful little girls in my arms, and what they have taught me through the years, far outweigh the fear I felt the first time I looked into their face.
I wished then I had a simple, easy to follow user manual on how to raise them. Let me see if I can explain it a little better. Unfortunately, children don’t come with a user manual. In fact, even if such a manual existed, it could not apply to all children.
Much like when you buy a car of one model, its user manual does not apply to a car of a different make or model. In the same way, every child is different because every child is born into a different family, different culture, different economic or educational background.
Even children born to the same family are different, which means that raising each child may require different approaches, different styles…as parents, we need to adapt our parenting style to each child.
At the same time, even though each child is unique, all children have the same basic needs and they operate on the same basic principles, both physiological and psycho-emotional. What we need to do, as parents is to learn as much as we can about the behaviors that are common to most children so we will be prepared to act, and react, properly whenever certain situations come up.
When we understand those patterns of behavior that are common to most children, we will also be able to identify the same in our own child. That’s our goal in this series. We want to invite you to join us in this series as we help you identify those patterns of behavior and how to deal with them so you will be better equipped to help in the healthy, harmonious growth and development of this precious treasure that has been entrusted to you.
Ultimately, that is your responsibility, and your efforts will be rewarded!