Hi All, Welcome to my channel Ippadiku UR’s My name is Umamaheswari. We have already discussed about many topics in parenting Today, we are going to discuss about the BEST PRACTICES in parenting when you kids are in their early ages, thats between 0 – 7 years you can follow these best practices once you start following, your parenting style could even change in a positive way you will start seeing many positive changes in your child Lets get into the points, without wasting your time #1 – Repetition works best when it comes to early ages, that is 0 – 7 years, repetition works best you need to repeat what you say in almost everything.
… without thinking how many times to say the same thing, you need to REPEAT only then, the little minds register what you say.. you may think, you have been already saying/ repeating it for 10 days now.
… but the child doesn’t seems to understand or follow it but 10 days is a very short period for them to follow the instructions…. when it comes to early age kids, minimum of 3 month instructions is required you can see the effect, only after that 3 months its not necessary that they would do it immediately they may take their time to do .
. even after 3 months, they may not do as they grow, in their later stage, it will help them in their growth in some other way they will implement what was taught earlier, at that time you may even be surprised that, you never told them now.
…. reason might be, the repetitive things that you had said before…. to implement the instructions, given before, their mind dint have the maturity but it has gone into the little brains as and when they get the maturity, they start implementing it that is the main reason for saying repetition works best dont expect instant results.
…. #2 – effective communication we have already spoken about this in detail in my previous episodes, check the link in description let me say it, in short in this video…. you always need to have a medium to speak to your kids if you think, they will listen when you play with them, you need to play and communicate if they will listen to you when you co-read books with them, then that’s your medium if they will listen to you while co-sleeping with them, then that’s your medium when kids come to you to ask anything or say anything first you need to listen to them you need to ask more details about that if they have drew a picture, you may ask why is the tree in green why not its in yellow.
..what else is there…why ….why not….such questions so that they feel the involvement you show towards them… that’s the key to effective communication there is a beautiful bond built by way of this.
.. this bonding will help you to easily communicate to them this will greatly help you in all ways and especially making PARENTING easy #3, Respond, but don’t react even if they have dont something that triggers your anger, suppose, they spilled a cup of water yelling at them is reacting to the situation its fine, get the mop and get it wiped – is responding to the situation sometimes, just to seek attention, they do such things its not necessary to react or respond to all their actions.
.. so its crucial to know, when to respond and when to react #4 – When it comes to parenting, both held equal contribution sometimes, when you get angry due to their actions both, mother and father should not be angry at the same time when one is angry, the other needs to explain the child about their bad actions if both get angry, and both react to the child the child may not get a chance to understand what wrong they did striking the balance is very important #5 – it is slightly relative to the previous point in last point, i said parents should not be reacting the same way but now, they need to say the same way let see, what is that , the parents need to be as one.
….. when dad says no to something, even the mom should say no to the same thing….. why is it so……….? only when it happens in this way, the child understands that something is wrong about what is asked that is why both are saying no.
… suppose when you say yes, and your husband says no…. the kid understands the trick of getting things done…. they understand whom to ask what to get an YES……. they get the trick of getting YES in all matters.
… they get whatever they want…. they will fall under the trap of not knowing which is actually bad or good for them…. this attitude is not good for them parents need to be like a single track….
children are the train who travel on the track if the track is not right, the children are in danger…. # 6 – Children have great listening skills speak only positive things in front of them when relatives, friends or whoever is home or in phone conversation when children are around, definitely we should speak only positive things not only about them, even about others even about their friends, teachers, siblings granny, granpa, other relatives.
… whom so ever be it…it should only be positive about them or about others – speak only positive things only this habit will make them a positive person also, it creates a good impression about others as well.
.. if only you want to advise them do it, when they are alone not in front of anyone which will affect their self esteem # 7 – This is the last point and very important too…. As adults and as parents we have our own opinion this is wrong or this is right.
…. because we have experience, have gone through things but kids are not like that…………….. they are fresh in mind they dont have experience, and they dont know it…. so we need to share our experience with them for that, we need to first understand them seeing things from their perspective even when the child is crying or being adamant for something to understand why are they adamant we need to see from their perspective and handing it becomes easy are they playful about asking it, or do they really want it.
.. solution to know, how to convince them in that matter lies in understanding things from their perspective So, we have come to an end We have discussed about the 7 best practices to be followed in the early ages of parenting I have followed this and seen a positive change in my kids that’s why I wanted to share this with you all If you have already been following this, or know someone who has already followed this if you know the changes they are seen whatever you want to share with me please do drop a comment in the comment section below hope this video was very useful to you please share with you friends, family, relatives whom you think will get benefited Dont forget to subscribe to our channel Thankyou so much for watching