We all have a giant monster in our life, whose name is COMPARISON… which is sitting in our minds. When we are young, the comparison among siblings is like – fairer, prettier, skinnier… In school, more comparative degrees add-on, comparison is among friends .
. like smarter, brighter, more sportive, more intelligent and so on…so forth … If we sit and think, we don’t feel worthy of anything. Sometimes, you feel a sense of defeat. Hey! COMPARISON everywhere, defeat and defeat everywhere… I wish I had that talent.
.. I wish I were gorgeous like her… Some are good at studies, some are good at singing. Some are good at sports, some are good at writing… and I don’t know, What else? But is there anything good in me? So much envy, jealousy, bitterness arises when we see others doing better than ourselves.
We all fight for perfection, the battle for control, and ultimately fall into a pit of anxiety. When we grow up, others’ status, style, enjoyment, employment and we get angry. Therefore, someone has correctly quoted, “Comparison is the thief of joy”.
Sometimes, the comparison does help, it inspires and also bring improvements, and sometimes it is so bad, that we start misunderstanding ourselves in everything. Nowadays, our children are surrounded by a competitive world.
Parents often tell their children – “look at yourself and look at that child, how good he/ she is”. We all parents are mature – when we say so. We say so; troubled by the wrongdoing of our children, and also to improve them.
But, children are not mature enough to understand, they take it to their heart and lose their confidence. Children or grown-ups, we never have to compare anyone. Because we are all different people. COMPARISON makes us weak.
When compared, 1. There is doubt about one’s own ability. 2. Seeing others being good starts to feel jealous. 3. Negativity starts to grow. Anger creeps into the mind. 4. Trust is removed from people.
5. Relationships start to deteriorate with those who compare. 6. Time is wasted. We start feeling sad. In simple words, by comparing yourself to others you are holding yourself back. Now, if I simply tell you, not to compare yourself with others.
You will not understand. So today we will learn how you can stop comparing yourself to others. So, firstly, we all to remember- Be positive and happy with who you are. Remember, there is no such thing as a perfect life.
No one is perfect. We all have different paths. We must have dreams, must have desires, need courage. Accept your present and accept yourself Some are dusky, some are fair. Some are bulky, some are lean.
Some are bald, and some have very beautiful long hair… it’s ok. Things that you cannot change, accept them. Whatever you are, accept yourself, but do not give up, you can make changes for the future if you desire to do so.
When you are positive you will realize that you are controlling your life, no one else is doing it. Even then whatever be the stressful situation, you will move on and deal with it. Focus on your own story, instead of getting caught in others’ lives.
Better, think of your own journey. The second point, Stop following the crowd, they are lost. From the time we are born, it becomes programming; we have to do what others are doing. Normally this happens, because not following the crowd would mean that all are against you.
It seems that we are more concerned about the opinions of friends, family, and relatives. We think as they did. We talk like they did, we walk, as they did … Don’t try to squeeze and fit-in, where you do not belong to? You’ll never be comfortable.
Showcase yourself by doing things differently and try something out of the box. It is very common for people to follow. Especially here in India, you take a path, because everyone is taking that path.
You know, when you do so, you are sacrificing, a part of who you are? Think over it, you are unique. You have something good in you. Respect others’ opinions, but do what you want to do, what you are meant to do.
Number three, Be confident. Some believe that confidence is something that people are born with and it cannot be acquired. Whatever work you do, do according to the best of your ability. So never doubt yourself, when you do not doubt yourself you gain confidence.
When there is confidence, there is learning. With learning, a good job, money, networking and you can accomplish your life goals. Point number four, Be your own best friend and practice self-care. Love yourself, understand yourself, know your limitations, and know yourself.
If you have any drawbacks, I have already mentioned to you, accept them. Take care of your health, your body, your mind. When someone is in trouble, then we try to help him/her. Similarly, when you are upset, talk to yourself and explain to yourself that everything will be alright.
I mean, sit with yourself and speak to yourself. All your problems will be resolved. Believe me, you may try it out. Point number five, Look at your achievement and record them. Small and big achievements… Write them down.
It could be hitting a gym, getting up early in the morning, helping someone, finishing a project, completing your task in time. Write them, it really matters to you. Feel proud about it. Your achievements will be a big source of motivation for you.
Remember, there will always be someone more talented, intelligent, prettier, smarter, bubbly, or outgoing. Know your unique value. You are unique in this world In this competitive world, it is not easy to stay away from comparison.
There are many bumpy roads, rough roads, moments of insecurity, but you may give a trial. Soon you will be clear about your unique talents, skills, and qualities. So friends, its time to ponder- Now, you may take my advice Hope you all liked today’s advice.
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