Are you imposing your dreams and choices on your children? Are you snuffing out their right to exercise their own choices? If you are doing this, then stop. Your job was to give wings to the children, which you gave.
Now, let the children fly using their wings automatically. I hope, you must have understood, which topic I am going to talk about, today. So parents, stop imposing your dreams on your children. Let them make their own choice.
Children are not your trophy, which you have to show to the world as your achievement. The maturity level is different for every child, maturity depends on the child’s exposure. Roughly teen is the crucial age, but same time perfect age for children to make their own decisions.
Their decisions may be right and wrong, but both the ways they are going to learn a lot. Let them make a decision and know the pros and cons of their decision. At most, the decision will be wrong, might fall, might get hurt.
But, what will be learned, will be permanent learning. Anyways, as such you are there to help them, support them and correct them. But if you are the one who takes all the decisions of your children, then how will they make them responsible and independent? you may give them exposure, advice, choice .
.., but don’t make your dreams their dreams. I request you all, please don’t snatch away their right to make a decision. we need to teach them the art of making the right decision at right time. I am a mom, and I know it’s very tough but only brave hearts can do.
As parents, this liberty/freedom we have to give to our children, for their emotional development and mental development. We all know, an Artist cannot become a good Engineer or Lawyer. We parents need to allow our children to create their own painting on the canvas of life.
That too, using their own choice of colours. I’ll tell you a story, which will clarify everything. There was a beautiful girl, named Grace. She grew up, dreaming that one day, someday she will be a Ballerina.
She used to spend hours and hours each week, training herself for more flexibility, various stretches, and also to learn the perfect spin. In dreams, she would see herself performing dance on famous platforms day and night.
One day at the dinner table, Grace’s mom, Mrs. Gray said, “Wouldn’t it be more exciting to be a famous Doctor” See your dad, he is such a famous doctor and he has his own clinic. Then tomorrow, once you grow up, you have to maintain and take care of his clinic too.
Like your dad, even you will become famous one day. Every young child grows up, dreams of being a movie star, astronaut, Nobel prize winner. Grace also wanted to be famous, wanted to earn a name. But she wanted to become a famous dancer.
So she said, “No” hurriedly and left the table immediately. Years passed and Mrs. Gray’s pressure was increasing, to choose a real career. Grace had no interest in science at all… Finally, in +1, she took the subjects, which she never liked.
One side her passion, love for dance, which she had been practicing since, a decade and on the other side, intense pressure from her mom. Finally, Grace enrolled for the medical course – and no dance program.
Grace finished her course with difficulty and became a Doctor. But could not cope up as a Doctor, and failed miserably in life. Grace was very disappointed, she never wanted such a career. Neither she could become a doctor, nor a dancer.
Above everything, Grace was devastated, as she could not pursue her passion, dream, which would have given her fulfillment in life. We parents have to come out of this outdated mindset. Every child has the right to live his dream.
We can guide children in their life decisions, help them. But, cannot distance them from their passion. When children are forcefully forced into a career, that they do not want to opt. Then, actually, we are not giving them a good life.
Rather, we are pushing them to death. Now, it’s time to ponder… 1. For parents, Parents, please do not impose your dreams, your aspiration on your children. Support them, help them, lift them up, love them, and let them follow their passions.
2. For all young aspirants Dream hard, keep on dreaming. Do, what you are interested in and if you are interested in something which does not exist, then create them. You have all the power, to create your own future.
Now, you may take my advice… Remember one thing in life- Contentment and Happiness are much beyond being rich and famous. Hope you all liked today’s advice. If you have some topic, wherein you require my advice.
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